Something has shifted and I’ve got to say, I’m liking it. I’ve been saying 'no' so much more than I used to.

And like everything I practice. I’m getting better. I’m saying no to business opportunities that just don’t feel right, no to the tempting (but relentless) training opportunities, no to an overfull diary, no to full weekends.

I said no to New Year’s Eve. Thank you, that’s kind but…no. Just not my thing – not this year anyway. I was in bed by 10 with a decaf. Bliss!

Of course, sometimes there is an obligation or responsibility. Like everyone, there are parts of my job that I endure, rather than relish. I’m not going to miss a dear friend’s birthday because I’d rather watch Bridgerton. And there can be empathy and kindness in the message even if it is a no.

But in a world where we are bombarded with demands for our time and attention, the ability to say no is more important than ever before. It’s about having boundaries – does everyone else determine how you live your life, or do you get to choose? Saying 'yes' to you often means saying 'no' to something or someone else.

It’s always an interesting topic for a coaching conversation. Saying no can take a lot more courage than yes. No to a new role that’s just not right. Or an unnecessary meeting. Or a promotion that may seem like a win but feels like a loss.

It can be tempting to grasp everything that comes our way but ultimately what you say ‘no’ to is as big a determinant of your future, as what you say ‘yes’ to. In life and work.

What do you say no to?